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Issue 64 · 7 Nov 2026 · Easy · Free
Settle This
Who is right in an argument AI judge
It started with the dishwasher and two hours later you're arguing about something someone said in 2023. You both think you're right, and asking a friend just gets you a friend who agrees with you.
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Sample you can paste
Who's right? Me and my partner, living together two years. My side: I cook dinner almost every night. After I cook I leave the pans to soak and do them the next morning. Last night she loaded the dishwasher at 11pm, slammed the door and said "I'm not your cleaner". Her side, as fair as I can put it: she gets up at 6 and the kitchen is full of greasy pans when she wants breakfast. She says she's asked me "like ten times" to clean up the same evening. She thinks I only cook so I don't have to clean. What I want: to stop having this fight every week.
Steps
Step 1
Write your side
What happened, in a few lines. Facts first, then how it made you feel.
Step 2
Write their side, fairly
Put their case the way they would, not the weakest version. If they'd read it and nod, you did it right. Pasting their actual messages works too.
Step 3
Say what you want
Win the point, end the fight, or stop it happening again. It changes the advice.
Step 4
Get the verdict
What you're really arguing about, a straight call on each point with the reason, what each of you could give, and one sentence to open the conversation again.
What you get
What you put in and what you get out
When to use it
Use it after the argument has cooled down a bit, when you're still sure you're right, and before the same fight comes back next week.
When to skip it
It only knows what you tell it, so if you write their side badly it will judge a weak version of them. It's not therapy or couples counselling. If anyone in the argument is scared, threatened or controlled, it won't judge the fight and points you to real help instead.
Sample run
0:00
The fight
Greasy pans left to soak overnight. A dishwasher slammed at 11pm. "I'm not your cleaner."
Full prompt
settle-this.prompt.txt
You are a fair, warm and honest referee for everyday arguments between partners, roommates, friends, family or coworkers. You hear both sides, find what the argument is really about, and make a clear call on each point. You don't flatter the person asking.
INPUT
- The user's side of the argument.
- The other person's side, written by the user (or their actual messages).
- Who they are to each other, and what the user wants: to be told who's right, to end this fight, or to stop it happening again.
HOW TO WORK
1. Safety first. If anything suggests fear, threats, violence, control over money or contacts, or someone being afraid to speak, do not judge the argument. Say plainly that this sounds like more than a disagreement, and suggest talking to someone they trust or a local support line. Stop there.
2. Check the other side. If it reads like a weak or mocking version of the other person, say so in one line and ask the user to rewrite it the way that person would say it. If it's good enough to work with, continue.
3. Find the real argument. In one or two sentences, name what each person actually needs or feels is missing. It's usually not the thing the fight started about.
4. Split the argument into separate points (the act, the words used, the history, the tone). For each point, make a call: "You", "Them" or "Fair draw", with a one-line reason based on what was said. Don't call everything a draw. Draw only when the facts really don't decide it.
5. Say what each person could give: one concrete thing each, small enough to do this week.
6. Give one opening sentence the user can say to restart the conversation. It should own the part they got wrong, without grovelling, and invite a fix.
RULES
- Judge behaviour, not people. No labels like "toxic" or "narcissist".
- Only use what's in the input. If something important is missing, say what you'd need to know.
- Be honest with the user even when they're the one who's mostly wrong.
- Short, plain sentences. No therapy jargon.
OUTPUT
## What you're really arguing about
One or two sentences.
## The call
A short list: each point, then You / Them / Fair draw, then why.
## What each of you could give
One line for each person.
## Say this first
One sentence in quotes.Copied it? Get the Friday roundup. Seven agents and one tip, once a week.
How it works
Most arguments aren't about what they started with. The pans, the late reply, the money for the trip are the trigger. Underneath there's usually one person who feels ignored and one who feels not counted.
This agent listens to both sides, finds that real disagreement, and then does what a friend won't: makes a straight call on each point. You're usually right about something and wrong about something else. Knowing which makes it a lot easier to stop.
What to paste
Your side in a few lines. Their side, written the way they would put it, or their actual messages. Who you are to each other and what you want: win the point, end the fight, or stop it coming back.
What you get back
What you're really arguing about, in one or two sentences. A call on each point (you, them or a fair draw) with the reason. What each of you could give. And one sentence to open the conversation again without anyone losing face.
If your version of their side sounds like a straw man, it says so. If anything sounds like fear, threats or control rather than a normal argument, it stops judging and points you to real help.
Questions about Settle This
Can AI really be fair if only I write both sides?
Only as fair as what you paste. That's why it asks you to write their side the way they would say it, and it tells you when one side sounds like a straw man. Pasting their actual messages, or writing it together, gives the fairest result.
Will it just say "you're both right"?
No. It makes a call on each point with a reason, so you'll often get "you're right about this, they're right about that". It only calls a point a draw when the facts really don't decide it.
Is Settle This free?
Yes. The prompt is free to copy, download, and reuse under CC-BY-4.0. There is no sign-up on One Agent a Day. You only need access to a chat model such as ChatGPT, Claude and Gemini.
Which AI tools does Settle This work in?
It was written for ChatGPT, Claude and Gemini. It is a plain-text prompt, so any capable chat model can run it. Paste the prompt first, then your input.
What do I paste into Settle This?
Write your side. What happened, in a few lines. Facts first, then how it made you feel.
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